The social pressures of impressing women and competing for attention are making many men consider giving up on dating entirely. You spend time and money on the song and dance only to find out that nice guys really do finish last.
Women claim that men are shallow and only want one thing but never even give the time of day to a nice guy with a genuine interest in getting to know them. There are exceptions I am sure, but not very many that I have seen. Too often, guys feel like they did everything right: Took her out somewhere nice, paid for everything, made her laugh, complimented her on her look and made her feel appreciated for the time she put into getting ready…And then the girl disappears or says she isn’t ready for a relationship. Classic case of nice guys finish last.
First off, no normal guy will want to rush into a relationship. Women, you are jumping ship before it even leaves the port. I understand the possibility of a nice guy turning into a clingy responsibility is scary – but that can be just as scary for us guys – if not more.
I am currently in a committed relationship with someone that I love. However, when I was dating I remember getting discouraged plenty of times and being ready to throw in the towel. I am not afraid to approach a pretty girl and politely (keyword fellas: POLITELY, not “damn ma, you fly as fuuuuuuh”) introduce myself and ask her about herself. Throughout this social experiment that we call “dating” I met several types of girls, and some women. The majority (again with a few exceptions) were girls that thought they were doing me a huge favor by talking to me. I mean, I don’t consider myself an unattractive guy or socially retarded. I did not disrespect them or give them reason to treat me like I was spraying Ebola into their face with every word that I spoke.
The fact that most guys are coming to realize is this: Most women expect too much and provide too little; and the few that are worth their weight in gold don’t realize it so their insecurities are sabotaging relationships. Good guys aren’t extinct – they are playing video games and hanging out with their friends, hiding from your crazy ass! Recently, professional video gamer Doug “FaZe Censor” Martin broke up with his super model girlfriend Yanet Garcia. FaZe claims they broke up so that he can focus more on his gaming career – and people lost their shit. This is the perfect example of how much work a relationship can be.
Below you will find an excerpt from a very interesting article I found online that talks about the decay of the dating scene from a man’s perspective:
“Social commentators, journalists, academics, scientists and young men themselves have all spotted the trend: among men of about 15 to 30 years old, ever-increasing numbers are checking out of society altogether, giving up on women, sex and relationships and retreating into pornography, sexual fetishes, chemical addictions, video games and, in some cases, boorish lad culture, all of which insulate them from a hostile, debilitating social environment created, some argue, by the modern feminist movement.
You can hardly blame them. Cruelly derided as man-children and crybabies for objecting to absurdly unfair conditions in college, bars, clubs and beyond, men are damned if they do and damned if they don’t: ridiculed as basement-dwellers for avoiding aggressive, demanding women with unrealistic expectations, or called rapists and misogynists merely for expressing sexual interest.” –THE SEXODUS, PART 1